Mark Manson happened to be a blogger. A number of failed jobs, hopping across 50 countries, being in many unhealthy relationships and some substance abuse later he wrote this book, about handling all the F*ck in your life. His hard-fought wisdom comes across from the heart and you cannot help but passionately agree and resonate with most of the values dishes out.
I am not reviewing his golden voice here but only giving you a list of quotes from his book that I as a reader thought were a rude slap in the face. His words ring true and his humor is ruthless.
Mark Manson on Love
I thought love was something that just happened, not something that you worked for. – Page 116The difference between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship comes down to two things: 1) how well each person in the relationship accepts responsibility and 2) willingness of each person to both reject and be rejected by their partner. – Page 175It’s not about giving a fuck about everything your partner gives a fuck about; it’s about giving a fuck about your partner regardless of the fucks he or she gives. That’s unconditional love, baby. – Page 181You don’t feel loved until you trust that the love being expressed toward you comes without any special conditions or baggage attached to it. – Page 183
Mark Manson's Laws
Mark’s Feedback Loop from Hell – You’re so worried about doing the right thing all the time that you become worried about how much you’re worrying. – Page 7Mark’s Backwards Law – Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience. Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience – Page 9 and Page 11.The 3 subtleties - Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different. To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity. Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about. - Page 14, 17 and 195 values Mark believes are life-changing – responsibility, uncertainty, failure, rejection, mortality. – Page 89Manson’s law of Avoidance – the more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it. - Page 136
Mark Manson's Thoughts on Life
The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more, it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important. - Page 5The world is totally fucked and that’s all right, because it’s always been that way. – Page 8Life itself is a form of suffering – Page 25Don’t hope for a life without problems. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems. – Page 30All the meaning in your life is shaped by this innate desire to never truly die. – Page 198Ultimately, the only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in one’s life is through a rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to one place, one belief, or one person. – Page 166
Mark Manson on Travel
Travel is a fantastic self-development tool, because it extricates you from the values of your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely different values of your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely different values and still function and not hate themselves. – Page 168
Mark Manson's Take on You
If everyone were extraordinary, then by definition no one would be extraordinary. – Page 60If it feels like you versus the world, chances are it’s really just you versus yourself. - Page 146You are already great because in the face of endless confusion and certain death, you continue to choose what to give a fuck about and what not to. – Page 208For individuals to feel justified in doing horrible things to other people, they must feel an unwavering certainty in their own righteousness, in their own beliefs and deservedness. – Page 133Our most radical changes in perspective often happen at the tail end of our worst moments. -Page 154While investing in one person, one place, one job, and one activity might deny us the breadth of experience we’d like, pursuing a breadth of experience denies us the opportunity to experience the rewards of depth of experience. – Page 187
Definitions by Mark Manson
Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuck-worthy. – Page 19
Happiness is not a solvable equation. It comes from solving problems. – Page 26
Decision-making based on emotional intuition, without the aid of reason to keep it in line, pretty much always sucks. – Page 35Growth is an endlessly iterative process. Page - 117Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it. – Page 160
I thought being cool had to be practiced and learned from others, rather than invented for oneself. – Page 116
While writing about Charles Bukowski a struggling writer who became a bestseller after age fifty Mark says, “The genius in Bukowski’s work was his simple ability to be completely, unflinchingly honest with himself-especially the worst parts-and to share his failings without hesitation or doubt.” - Page 3.
“I used to think the human brain was the most wonderful organ in my body. Then I realized who was telling me this.” – Quote by Comedian, Emo Philips used by Mark Manson in his book. Page 123
Mark Twain quote used by Mark Manson in his book – The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time. – Page 204 If you are looking to read this book and need to read a review of the book, read my review here. But without to cut the long story short I would definitely, read this book. It’s worth giving a fuck about. Happy Reading!
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